Your body count is the number of people you have had sex with, and that information is something that you should keep to yourself.
Even in new relationships where new partners try to familiarize with each other by asking questions, peering into past relationships and trying to understand past sexual experiences; the question may arise from your [potential] boyfriend.
No matter how gently or how politely or innocently he asks, you should never tell,your boyfriend doesn’t deserve to know your body count.
“People will judge you no matter what answer you
give when asked about past lovers and the
assumption they make is usually wrong.”
“Which is why I don’t care who’s doing the asking whether it’s your partner, mother, best friend or beauty therapist your answer to how many
lovers you’ve had is no answer.
You could tell your doctor, gynecologist or other medical professionals who need your sexual history for medical reasons, she adds.
That seems logical enough, given that those are professionals who have signed a confidentiality oath.
Your body count will be used against you
“Keep your mouth zipped even if nothing… has
been [in there]… and don’t kid yourself: if you do blurt out a figure to your boyfriend, you will be judged and not necessarily by the same rules he judges himself on.
“Even if he’s slept with 300, your three will be too many,bringing to the fore yet again the ridiculousness of the double standard which society judges sexual activeness with in the genders.
Men are hailed champs when they’ve been with
numerous women, but women are called tramps
for being even half as sexually adventurous as
some of these men.
To avoid these unfair bias in society’s estimation of you, don’t tell your boo; not your friends and surely not
your Nigerian parents and you’ll be just fine.