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On today’s episode of Seek Advice, we present to you a young woman who is in 200 level, at Obafemi Awolowo University and found out she’s pregnant. Her parents want her to take a break, but she wants to continue her education while being a mom. She needs our help to make her decision. Time is running out, and she has to decide soon. Kindly read her story and drop some advice; she will be reading!
I have a real life issue that I need to publish because the person’s life and education depends on it.
A girl in her 20’s, just about to resume for 200 level got pregnant during the break. She hid the pregnancy for a long time until it was no longer hideable. The parent took note of the changes in her body few weeks to resumption and then demanded for scan to be done. She did the scan and it was positive.
The whole issue went on and on and she has never for once being happy about the whole situation. This alone has been affecting the pregnancy.
The parent insist she takes leave of absence but she declined the offer saying “pregnancy should not stop me from going to school, this is my life and decision. This was why I kept it away from you all for the few months I’ve been at home. Why now that we are about to resume??” All this were said on deaf ears. No one listened to her. The HOD was consulted on the case and advice was given “if she can cope with the studies and at the same time the pregnancy, then it’s left to her. This is obviously not a new case, there are many cases like this. So, allow her to decide on her own, cous anything you decide for her and cause her unhappiness will affect her and the baby inside her. Just comply with her. There is nothing new under the sun”.
This was all the HOD said and few days later, the parent gave their decision telling their ward to take the leave of absence and lose a year. They insisted that she can’t cope with the pregnancy and that after the baby is born, she won’t have to worry about the child, just her studies.
The girl child cried and cried and told me the story. I called so many people to talk to the father on her behalf but it seems like all hope is lost. She already made it clear that she will work harder cous she is currently on Second Class Lower. She already told them het mind about her school activities but they are not ready to give full hearings.
I want pregnant women and nursing mothers going to school to please speak on her behalf. Please, show faces and tell us experiences in school. Help the girl return back to school. Students and course mates, support the girl and help her return to school. She only has TODAY AND TOMORROW left. She need to return with us.
Help a sister.
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